Friday, October 30th 2009

When Life “Challenges” You – How Do You Respond?

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Last week I mentioned I’d be sending out this next issue of ‘LIVE to the MAX’ to highlight some things that are going on in my life – that, undoubtedly have, are or will be going on in yours – If not with you directly – surely with someone you know…

Let’s take this one subject at a time:

DIVORCE:

Many of you already know I’ve already been divorced once. Well, I’m in the midst of divorce # 2 right now. It’s an “amicable” one – But even amicable divorces are loaded with their own challenges, especially when a child or children are involved.

That being said – I have MUCH to be grateful for – in going through these 2 episodes of my life. I have grown in ways that ONLY these 2 marriages could have helped me grow.

I have learned things about myself – and other people – that I could have ONLY learned by going through these 2 marriages that I speak of…

The person I have become – the person I have grown into – could only have grown as such – by going through specific experiences designed to properly prepare me for the rest of my life. And for all of this, I am thankful.

A diamond becomes a diamond after certain elements are combined and then exposed to incredibly extreme levels of pressure and forces…

We can choose to apply this example as a metaphor to our own lives.

I’m not a diamond yet – but I’m so much closer now. And the future looks undeniably bright – as I strive to make the most out of my life – and ‘live to the max’.

CAREER:

This is an area of life where countless people never get a chance (or take a chance) to ‘live to the max’…

Last week, during an evening fit-walk, I was on the phone with my brother, Dom, for about 90 minutes.

Dom, Marisa, Joey

Dom, Marisa, Joey

He’s 3 years younger than me – but we’ve always been close in many ways. We have many similarities – but also some clear differences. Our mother wonders sometimes if we are both hers!! (we also have a sister too, Marisa – I’ll cover her in the future ;-)

Dom looks up to me in many ways …says he “wishes he could be as reckless as me…” (JUST KIDDING)… But I also look up to him in certain regards. For example, he epitomizes the definition of a “good daddy” – and while I’m pretty good myself – He makes me want to be even better. That’s just one example…

He’s also VERY funny – But I am at least neck and neck with him there.

For example – in this photo – If you could see the whole thing – before I cropped it, you’d get the full effect…

One of our Police friends stopped by. Dom went inside to grab some fake teeth and a hat. He then had the cuffs put on him – and jumped into the back seat, stuck his cuffed hands out the window and… Boom – Instant Kodak moment – Classic! I laugh every time I look at that photo.

Dom In Police Car

Dom In Police Car

Anyway – Dom has always been the ‘conservative’ type – While I’ve always been the ‘risk taker’ – especially when it comes to career…

He is essentially in the same field as me – Health/Fitness/Nutrition – But in a slightly different capacity. Most of his time has been spent in a physical rehabilitation setting, working with pre and post surgery patients – as well as work related injury rehab cases.

It has been a steady and “safe” job for him – for many years – and to him it was ‘comfortable’…

I must mention – there have been events and forces in his life – which made that job even more “safe and comfortable”…

In addition to that – he also has a steady and loyal following of private clients he sees several times a week for personal fitness training appointments.

He is VERY good at what he does – and carries a very similar style and philosophy to mine (smart guy!)…

But in addition to that – He also has a VERY special gift for creating very appetizing, healthy, yet simple meals that fit the busy fitness lifestyle – Meals and snacks that you, and many people you know, would GREATLY appreciate and welcome into your life.

Anyhow – Our phone conversation revolved around the subject of imminent regulatory changes in the field of physical rehab medicine and therefore at the rehab office where he works – and hence the uncertainty of his position at the clinic.

Dom is married to my sister in law, Liz – and they have a daughter, Sophia, my lovely niece…

He is responsible for a lot.

This uncertainty of his position is causing a certain level of anxiety and uncertainty… and I’m trying to show him this is his time where “the elements are being exposed to forces and pressures that can turn them into the diamond…”

Truth be told – he doesn’t belong there – He has many talents to offer this world – Talents that other people pay dearly for to develop…

We also talked about:

1 – What is the subtle message the Universe is sending you right now? What signal is it sending you?

2 – Fear is only something in your mind that you imagine. Fear is not tangible – you create it in your own head. We fear uncertainty – or ‘what if’?… When you think about the worst case scenario in most modern day situations – you realize you truly don’t have much to fear anyway.

3 – In 30 or 40 years, if you look back at your life to this current time – Would you be happy with your actions in life? – Would you feel you truly tried to make the most of it by going after your true passions and motivations? Or would you regret just ‘playing it safe’ – and possibly resent the fact that you don’t know “what could have been if I…” ?

This chapter of his life is still open – its currently being written as we speak – And I’m trying to fuel his motivation to be the one holding the pen – who writes most of it – if not, all of it…

He has some special talents – he has some valued skills… He just needs to decide which ones he wants to pursue – and then, hop to it…

He knows I’m here to support and help him.

And I think if you are still reading this – you would gladly support him too. All I ask is that you show him some encouragement, by posting your comments and thoughts below – the more the better…

He knows this world holds much possibility when you decide to put yourself out there – now he just needs to ‘feel’ it a bit…

He and I may work on a project together that addresses healthy yet, simple and tasty meals and snacks for busy people, that fit into the fitness lifestyle – Or he may do it on his own – Either way, it will be incredible.

Dom & Joey Cooking It Up Healthy

Dom & Joey Cooking It Up Healthy

I didn’t think this post would turn out to be this long… amazing what comes out when you start writing…

I thank you for being here – and for being a part of all this.

Your trainer for life – your trainer forever,

Joey Atlas

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  • elainedolan
    hey Joey hows life?I have been checking my emails and have discovered my private client access has disappeared once again..I originally have it on desktop on another computer but this is elsewhere and I wont be there for another while.hoping you can resend the info again .Yours sincerely Elaine Dolan
  • Dell
    Hi Dom or Joey,
    I do not know who will be accessing this post but I just want to let Dom know that one psychologist, Havinghurst, noted that people in their middle years tend to be uncomfortable with their jobs and go insearch of another. The thing is, I had this same unsettling experience when I was in my mid thirties, I have done nothing about it and now in my mid forties I am indeed regretful and miserable at the same old job. I am also afraid of taking risks, venturing out, looking for new horizons. This does no one any good. So sit down and carefully explore your options and do not let fear of the unknown cripple you. I still want to venture out but do not know how. Crippled? yes but not giving up.

    I am a Registered Nurse and Nurse Educator/Clinical Instructor. I have both a bachelor's and master's degree but am I fulfilled career wise? NO!!! Yes, I am giving advise that I should take for myself and I really want to make some significant changes this year, this may involve migrating but I need to change or else...

    So Dom, do what you need to do but move on. All the best and good luck.

    Delka
  • carolinacanario
    i totally agree with you Joey, be encouraged Dom, this is your time to fullfill all your dreams and goals and not to stay in safety zone, this is the time that God has given to you! We will support your job... and im not even an american or live in the US, im from the dominican republic, so you two (Joey and Dom) have people watching over you worlwide! :)
  • JoeyAtlas
    Thanks for these great words of support and encouragement, everyone - They are MUCH appreciated!

    Joey
  • sheilalu
    Hi Joey!
    I truly agree with you: "A diamond becomes a diamond after certain elements are combined and then exposed to incredibly extreme levels of pressure and forces…".
    As an only child I was really spoilt and pampered by my parents but after my father's death, my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease and life has been hard ever since. Although I sometimes really think of what my life would have been like if nothing would have happened, I am very proud of the mature and responsible person I have grown to be.
    I hope all will be well for your brother, but if things don't turn right, I know he will find the strength to start over again and maybe build something bigger.
    Bye
  • tammycampbell
    LOVED READING THIS~

    There should be more siblings who band together to love and support each other....cheers to you guys! I personally would LOVE to recieve healthy, easy recipes. I have a pretty good hunch most people go threw their busy day with out giving much thought to what they put into their mouths, and usually end up making bad food choices. Also, I believe people don't realize how important good food is to your body and mind....Dom wouldn't it be amazing to be part of a possitive CHANGE in someones life choices!

    I encourage you to go for it...go for anything! Take a leep of faith, if it doesnt work thats ok...at least you tried, success comes with adventure.

    GOD BLESS AND BE WELL!
    Tammy

  • Yasmeen
    Hi Joey, Dom... I admire yr entrepreneurial spirit and I definitely agree with Joey that this is the time to realign yr goals and rethink yr priorities. So one very important question I think is: what do you really really really want to do with the rest of yr life? About yr cooking, I'm sure you are a swell cook but to actually prepare and distribute food to as many people as possible, you will need start-up capital to rent a place, equip yr kitchen, maybe hire staff, and so on. I was thinking: why not create yr own website and educate people about healthy eating habits, incredibly healthy food items, and publish yr recipes online. For instance, I know that a lot of people have no idea about the bad effects of artificial flavorings, preservatives, taste enhancers et al (you know the items indicated by "E"-xxx ), and don't get me started on Aspartame, monosodium glutamate (MSG) and their ilk. You could affiliate yourself on yr website with healthy products like organic food items, free-range chickens and eggs, and meat that does not contain hormones, antibiotics, and what not! Yech! You can teach people to break their bad eating habits and teach them awesome ways to a healthier life. With a positive attitude, one can always take away the "mis" in misfortune. One day you will be able to look back on this time and say that the best thing that happened to you was when you were made redundant! All the best to you and yr families.
  • JoeyAtlas
    Great comment Yasmeen!
    We appreciate this input. Excellent ideas.

    -- Joey
  • JoeyAtlas
    Susan... VERY COOL!! ...sounds like you two are 'living right'... Keep at it!

    Thanks for your great words here - they are greatly appreciated - and it means a lot, not only to us - but everyone else who follows along and travels this journey with us... We all do it together - we are all connected whether we know it or not...

    Joey
  • Hi Joey and Dom,
    Just got done traveling the country in an RV for about 2.5 years with my husband's job and had a great time. I am 42 , he is 53. No we are not "retired" (such an antiquated concept anyway). It was an opportunity and we took it. Now we are moving into a new town and reinventing ourselves again. Kind of scarey but more exciting because I have done it before so I now feel more confident about it. No doubt there is still fear there, but fear is our friend. It is a survival mechanism that we should appreciate having or we would probably all be in trouble. A very successful friend once told me "If you aren't feeling uncomfortable, then you are not moving forward." I kind of live in that now.
    Best to both of you. You guys Rock!
    Susan
  • Pat Woodruff
    Joey - I love reading your blog. I wish you and your brother all the best in whatever happens. I can't believe you read all your comments and pretty much answer them all too!! You are such an inspiration.
  • JoeyAtlas
    Hi Pat - thanks for reading and adding to the cause here - and I thank you for the compliments. Yes, I try my best to keep up with the comments - and my replies :-)

    Spread the word...

    Best,
    Joey
  • devonnja
    Hello Joey,
    I havent heard from you as much and now I know why. I have been married for 10 years and we have had our ups and downs. It takes a lot of work to be successful in marriage but is very rewarding when it comes together. I havent been as successful in my career and I will definitely take what you said about fear to heart. I know you will find your soulmate and I will be praying for you. Thanks for being so vulnerable and humble. These are really great attributes.
    prayerwarrior
  • JoeyAtlas
    Devonnja - your comments are deeply appreciated - Thanks for adding to the conversation here. And thanks for your prayers.... remember 'No fear'...

    Joey
  • Karen L.
    Your words repeat, almost verbatim, what I have said over and over to family and friends following my own divorce 7 years ago. I suspect we are two of a very large number of people in this world who are willing to accept that things happen for a reason & prepare us for potential future events ... although we may not understand a logic to it, at that moment. Sometimes, there is no logic involved nor an answer to the "WHY???" question. All a person can do is accept "what is", and move on. Sounds like you're very proactively doing that, so be proud of yourself. My immediate family jokingly claims that we are our very own best therapy, at times. If one of us has an issue, we call one another and may relate the story 2-3 times ... but talking it out helps ... and so does the repetition of retelling the story. Lean on your family for support during this emotional roller coaster ride (sounds like you have a loving one), and don't forget you have an entire world of extended family who will be there for you ... if you let them. If writing gives you relief/release, then use it. Your words & advice come from your experiences and your heart; your fans will, I'm sure, recognize this & will respond accordingly. You are a big believer in sharing free information that will benefit others. I have one for you that may be helpful/interesting some late night if you can't get to sleep. The topic is "The science behind EFT (Emotional freedom techniques) ... following the premise that emotional relief brings physical health. The website is: www.emofree.com/downloadeftmanual.asp . I have no affiliation to this site & I am not a medical expert. My sister, who is into homeopathic medicine/alternative treatments & does do some limited teaching, recommended I check out the free download, free newsletter, etc. I've only just started to check the info out, but it's very intriguing. Best regards to you & yours!
  • JoeyAtlas
    Karen - thanks for your great support here - Much appreciated - and I'm sure your words will be helpful to many others as well... Thanks for sharing that resource- will surely take a look at it.

    Best,
    Joey
  • JoeyAtlas
    Hello again everyone - Joey here just wanting to express my thankfulness to everyone posting support here. Your words and thoughts are greatly appreciated and extremely helpful !!!

    Keep it coming, please...

    Joey
  • bashar
    thank you very much Joey for sharing these messages with me and Im lucky to be your friend
  • dianemoodley
    thank you for sharing this article with us. I think going with the healthy meals idea would be a sure success and i wish you and Dom every success in this venture if you choose to do so. I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for your articles as i find them very informative and inspiring.
  • Anu
    Waoh! That's one of the most inspiring posts I've read. Glad to see men who still care for their loved ones this much. I pray God will guide Dom through this season as he thinks, plans and takes the steps to greater things ahead.
    P.S- What would you do if you had no fear? Stop fear from freezing your mind and making it impossible to do what u've been gifted and prepared for. I'm also going through this phase in my life and i see how i'm changing as I conquer the fear within me:)
  • Trish
    I would LOVE some help with healthy and tasty food! It has to be easy and taste good because I don't have time to cook separate meals for my husband and kids. I think Dom should at least give it a try, maybe while he still has his regular job, he could put something out there.

    Good Luck!
  • lucyanncaldone
    Joey & Dom, I've known both of you since you were little boys and you have come a long way. Life has it's trials & tribulations as we all have experienced in some way, but we keep on moving forward. I know you both have done just that. It sounds like you have a big decision to make, but a good one, remember that. I think it will work out for you positively, but by chance if it didn't, what options would you have then? If there are other options to turn to, then go for it. I believe you have many people's blessings, how can it not work for you? Whatever your choice may be, God Bless. Miss both of you. Lucyann
  • JoeyAtlas
    Hi Lu!
    Thanks so much for reading this post - and adding your support. Dom has already been blown away by all the responses - But he'll surely get something extra from your added support. We are blessed and grateful for the friendship between our families - Amazing how far back you and my mom go - and still so many years to come. Love ya - and miss all you too - Please give my regards to Frank and all 'the kids'.

    Joey
  • mimi2207
    It wasn't that long because you drew me in by keeping it real, with things we can all relate to. I enjoyed every word. However, my favorite part, besides Dom's 'teeth gag', was the quote: Fear is only something in your mind that you imagine. Fear is not tangible – you create it in your own head. We fear uncertainty – or ‘what if’?… When you think about the worst case scenario in most modern day situations – you realize you truly don’t have much to fear anyway. Thanks for Sharing and Inspiring Joey A. May God bless you & Dom in all your endeavors, as you continue to help teach others of obtainable health/fitness and awareness. Mimi

  • Elaine dolan
    Thanks for your cellulite busting regimes.I love it,I look forward to it every day.I would never do any excersise regime because i found them all so boring.Keep up the good work Joey you add satisfaction to my daily routine and give me a reason to get fit and healthy.You are an inspiration ,my husband is also doing your excersises.regards Elaine

  • JoeyAtlas
    Wow - How can I thank everyone enough? This support is all extremely appreciated, to say the least.

    Elaine - thanks for the great feedback - I'm very glad the 2 of you like my 'methods'...
    Don't forget to send me your kick-butt testimonial - You know I LOVE those - and they help spread the word.

    Your trainer,
    Joey
  • lenlentandang
    Hi! joey and dom,
    hello! i was reading your article right now i was really encourage about life. It is really hard but if you would think how would you have a life full of love without being love. what is important is you share what you have not only in terms of material thing or anything what is important you show concern and love to others by being there for someone , respect for someone. specially sharing your blessing to other people . GOD is good he uses people so that we could be encouraged and blessed. god bless you both and the good lord shower you more blessings and good health!!!!
  • Punknuckle
    Do it! Do it! Do it! what are you waiting for son, life is calling, make the decision, then make the change, take the first step, you don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.
    An idea that is developed and put into action is more important than an idea that exists only as an idea besides there are only two mistakes you can make along the road of life; not going all the way, and not starting. Dom people that don't even know you, are willing you on, imagine (seriously visualise) how supported you will be by these people and many more once you embark upon your journey, something amazing will come of this - freedom that can only be accomplished thru the internal joy of doing what you've always (secretly?) dreamt of......we're all rooting for you ;o)

  • Nicole
    A book I think I can best refer to you and Dom is: John Maxwell's "Failing Forward"; it is the greatest book and most helpful book I have ever read. Sometimes in life Fear will hold us back, especially when it comes to doing something not everyone approves of, but sometimes you just need to do it! I will also have to agree with Bwalya and her amazing advice! Jesus has been there for me throughout my whole life, I do not know what I would do without him or my faith! Faith is just like the wind, you don't see it, just the effects of it! I was recently diagnosed with Bipolar, and in my high school days, I was a human genie pig for many UC Davis Doctors...I kept passing out several times a day and no one could figure out why! The doctor said, that each time I passed out could be the last time I breathe life! Now that is scary! Something to be afraid of! But, without God and the bible and his strength...I don't think I would have been able to handle it, nor come out a better person, I think most maybe would have gone into depression. Just like you used the metaphor of being chipped into a diamond, Jesus used the metaphor of being refined into pure Gold. The hotter the Gold would get, the more the impurities would rise to the top, allowing the Gold refiner to scrape them off the top of the liquid gold. How he was able to tell whether or not the Gold was pure, was if the refiner could see his reflection in it. I believe that is what happens to us, the more trials we go through in life, the more our inadequacies and imperfections will rise to the surface allowing us to get rid of them, making us a better person! I hope that helped a little, I to can get carried away in writing...I mean writing is what I do! Just know that Jesus loves you and Dom very much, no matter what you've been through. And, he wants to walk by your side everyday of your life, guiding you and helping you up when you seem to fall! ;)

    -Nicole Hinkle
    -you both will be in my prayers! 
    For I am the Lord, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, do not fear; I will help you. Isaiah 41:13
  • Lucille
    Hi Joey,
    I once told you that you saved my life. And I believe I found you on the internet because God knew I needed your emails at that time. (I did & you did help me.) Thank you for what you do. God is with you & Dom. Good luck to both of you. I still need your emails, keep them comming.
  • Dom
    Life isen't about being secure, you could live in a cellar and be that! I was a Tax Accountant for years it was an interesting safe job, I helped people and made good money, however, you need work that stimulates YOU if you want to be happy and content. In 2001 at the age of 53 I went back to Uni and after five years of extra study set up my own business as a Clinical Hypnotherapist and now I really help people and enjoy myselfso much more, its risky in business sespecialy now in this down turn, people stop spending on themselves.......but if you know that what you do makes others live better lives with a smile on their faces everyday, isen't it worth a bit of risk taking, that's why I like Joey's attitude......he's a life bubble......sorry about your devorce Joey, third time lucky eh...
    Pat from Australia
  • JoeyAtlas
    Thank you so much for this, Pat!

    Yes - 3rd time 'lucky' - but please know I believe we 'create' our own luck ;-))

    Joey
  • Hi Joey,
    I like this article. I have one brother and although we have always been arguing when we were little we have grown passed from differences. We now understand each other better and we know that family is important. It's nice to know that you are very close with your brother and sister and that we get to know you as a person other than just the coach.
    I am sorry to hear that you are in the middle of family challenges. I think you are a good person and I wish you goodluck in all your endeavors.
  • Annie2304
    Today, more than any other day in the last three months I needed this. The diamond in the rough analogy is so very true. If that be the case, after all that life has thrown my way, i am busy being moulded into a diamond. But does it have to be so tiring, sore & unbelievably soul wretching. Keep the inspiration coming..... You touched my heart today. Thank you.
  • JoeyAtlas
    Annie - and everyone else who this post has helped - thanks for reading - and coming back to let me know how I've helped you. And again, I thank everyone for lending their thoughts and support here as well.

    New readers - please keep it coming.

    Lots to be thankful for...

    Joey
  • Joey - I am a South African mother with an Angelman Syndrome son ... please give me more details regarding your involvement with Angelman Foundation?
  • Bwalya
    Hi Joey and Dom,
    I really enjoy reading your articles more especially this weeks' you were talking about your brother but can i tell you something am equally going through the same situation even though my case is different in that i have got stabble job but am thinking of setting up my business, but i am failing to understand my self because i have developed so much fear such that am not sure if my plans will work out or not. Even though am experiencing this i beleive it is a passing phase God is in control. Dom i urge you too to committ your self to the lord he ll never fail you he has all the answers. Take sometime alone to discover the special talents which you have, from what Joey has said you already know your abilities please my dear make use of them.
  • johannaderas
    Hi, thanks for some inspiring reading and valuable thoughts. Sorry to hear about you are getting divorced however you seem strong and by taking it as a learning instead of failure you will get out of as an even better person than before. Those changes really make you think about what’s important for your self in your life. And to Dom, definitely think he should use his many talents (really admirable they way you describe your bro) and take the chance to create his own projects. Sometimes you need a push in the right direction to get out of your comfort zone and however change is a good thing if you see what the opportunities are and catch them. Wish him the very best of luck!

    Sincerely,
    Johanna
  • 1phoenix
    Dom and Joey. This resonates so strongly. So many life altering challenges, seem to be going on with so many great people at the moment. Talking with a few close friends, there is something almost tangible, shifting in the universe, I have no idea what is happening, but, one thing is certain - mediocrity - or settling for anything less than, does not seem to be an option. You have been so gracious, to share with us, so, to share something with you - which I hope, will, help in some way. In my immediate close circle of friends/family, we are dealing with two (extremely nasty divorces - one who is 70+), a friend who is recovering from a long debilitating illness - now compounded by the recent murder, of her one surviving parent and another, who after finding himself redundant four days before his 51st birthday, has started up his own business - and gone back to college. As crazy as it all seems, I have NEVER seen these people, so "mighty and strong" - sure, they have their bad days, but, they appear to be "driven." Whatever "greatness", is propelling them, I am "sending", to you both.

    Love, Light and Hugs,

    T

    PS - I was doing your "Flexibility Tape", this morning, (EVERY Monday! : ) with my precious 2 year old daughter. ( I am usually "jammed" up against the wall, when we are doing the stretches on the step ladder! LOL! ) Long after she is grown up and gone, I know I will treasure those moments - and I have you, to thank for those!



  • JoeyAtlas
    T - this is fantastic - and very generous of you to share this information here with us. I thank you for that. And I thank everyone else who has added to this post - Lots of powerful stuff here - and every word of it is deeply appreciated.

    Joey
  • Rich
    some times things happen and we don't know why they happen but we just have to carry on and it all works out in the end, good luck keep your head up.
  • Gail
    You have within you your own inbuilt GPS.... it's called intuition. You know where you want to be and you know that you are capable beyond your own wildest dreams - you just need to fuel up your own self-esteem and belief in yourself. Once that is done - YOU are the driver of this bus - take it wherever, whenever with whoever. Use your friends and cognition of your talents as your fuel. Stay well!
  • Lysah
    Hi Joey & Dom.
    First of all, I'm not an American, so excuse my English.
    I admire your friendship, you don't see that everyday between brothers, so close and being goofy with each other.
    I have to say Dom, the way your brother talks about you, means you've accomplished so far. You did and are doing a great job with everything that you do. Don't feel insecure with new challenges, because you have the potentials to face every challenge that life throws at you. You'll be and I'm sure you already are a good father and husband. And that's one of the most important roles in our lives.
    The fact alone that you are where you are today, should be a proof that you've got what it takes to do great things and to be great, so.....take the bull by its horns!!!!
    Thanks Joey for sharing a little personal stuff. And thanks for the mails and encouragements.
    Maybe you can share some of the good recipes......lol.......
    Lysah.
  • jacquelinelamoury
    Hi Joey

    I found your comments very inspirational as i two have gone through two failed marriages but feel that my past has shaped the person I am today and I am quite happy with that. I have two beautiful children who have gone through things with me and they have turned out to be two very well rounded children who cope with more things in life than maybe some of their contemporaries.

    I feel I am on the cusp of a new era I just need a little shove to enable me to move out of my comfort zone again. We should all relish any new challenges that come our way no matter how scary they may seem

    I think introducing healthy eating plans into your news letter would be a tremendous step forward. I personnally find it hard to think of healthy options or though I do or think I do try to eat as healthy as possible.

    Anyway good luck to you both I am sure you will both continue to succeed because of your very positive natures.

  • Dalida
    Hi Joey, I use to read your mails. Thanks a lot because you have shared part of your life with us..I just urged you to keep working as you have done it It helps a lot. Be sure you´re going to get better things to fulfill your life. Bye, have a nice time, and enjoy every moment. My best regards.
  • Andre Berard
    Sounds like a plan either alone or toghther, Hope to here that it happens. We all have hardships to overcome and it is great when the obsticles can be over come. Live large while you can. Dre'
  • Angie
    Joey,
    been reading my contribution again and it seems that my contents is not connected to what you wrote. It is though, giving an idea for your brother what he could look into, connecting his previous experience and adding something new and going forward with both.
    Angie
  • Angie
    Hi Joey,
    it really helped (for me at least) to include the pics to make the writing (which is very long) more lively. When I came to the finish, I thought I would like to pass on the thought that came to my mind regarding your brother. I am doing a workshop at the moment "train the trainer" by Ruthy Alon. She was a pupil of Moshe Feldenkrais, and the training is for "Bones". I am including the website here rather than explain in length what it entails. It is the greatest idea I have come across and I am wondering why I am picking it only up so late in my life. . . . . http://www.bonesforlife.com/news.asp. As you will see, it involves postures, strengthening of the bones, etc. can be used in rehab or for anyone who is interested in helping themselves. It is the best thing to teach, either individually or to groups.
    Angie




  • KQ
    Dom, Joey: a big blast of good energy is coming at you from Bethedsa, MD!! May I offer three things I'm trying hard to live by? 1) Your head will tell you what is safe and what makes sense; your gut will tell you what you really care about, what you yearn for. Give your gut an ear. :) 2) Don't be afraid to be uncomfortable while you wrestle with big questions, like "Who Am I and What Am I Supposed To Be Doing?" Yeah, those questions matter even when you have to work out support of family. You WILL put all the pieces together. 3) Isn't it amazing that people you don't know are rooting for you? The Universe can be a very cool, generous place. Savor the goodness of people, and of yourself, and actively cultivate an exuberant attitude. Be well!
  • Betty
    Thank you for sharing, I like that. Life is uncertain and scarey sometimes. We have to deal the best we can and try not to be too hard on ourselves when we look back.
  • sabrinasmith
    hi joey,thanku for sharing such a personal message.The only certainty i have had in my life and steadfast faithfulness to make a way when there sometimes appears to be no way,is Jesus so i shall pray for u and ur family.God bless u and be encouraged,God can move the mountains.:) keep me posted sabrina
  • sytira
    Hello Joey & Dom,

    Joey, you are awesome and I pray that things workout the way you and your wife hearts desire in this sensitive time in your lives. Remain friends. My 3rd husband and I are good friends fortunately we didn't have any children together!

    Dom, don't allow fear to hold you back, I speak from experience. From your picture you look younger than me, so don't allow the enemy of fear to control you and rob you of time and your God-given talent. I'm just now working my way out of allowing fear to hold me back from going after what's mine. The way Joey writes about you, you are awesome too! Believe it! Walk out your dreams. Even if you feel the enemy of fear attacking your mind, don' t let it paralyze you, push pass it. Again, I speak from having let fear have its way, much tooooo long, but NO MORE!. I push back, harder now. I am still breathing, which gives me the opportunity to correct some things and move on to bigger challenges and rewards to match. The BEST to you ALL!
  • julienteo
    Hi Joey, You are one great man yourself. Despite going through two sad episodes of your life, i see you are still a man living with full of passion. You are always updating us with interesting articles. You tell Dom, that life is all about choices. He never knows that the choice he made could be something miraculous about to happen in this life. He is so blessed to have you as a brother.
  • JoeyAtlas
    Wow - I didn't expect this many comments so quickly today. Please know - they are all extremely appreciated.

    Thank you!
    Joey
  • tavleen
    working out of the comfort zone works everywhere
  • tavleen
    jumping out of your comfort zone always works.
  • Mandy
    Hey Dom and Joey, I can completely relate to the resistance, reluctance and fear of life changes. Sometimes change can be so exciting to us and other times terrifying. The main difference is perspective. If I think the change is going to be fantastic and fun, of course it's positive, fueling and I can fly at it full force with gratitude and anticipation. Unfortunately, if I anticipate pain, struggle, or strife of some sort, it's a whole different ball game. I've gone through 2 serious heartbreaks, job loss, 3 close family deaths and a few other non-fun life changes over the past few years and there have certainly been moments when I thought, what the hell is this all for? I'm still in some of these challenges, but thankfully, my perspective is starting to change. I'm not saying we should ignore the sufferings and fears of this life...we just have to acknowledge the truth of them and then spend our energy where it's profitable for our progress. That's a battle, but it's the only way out of tough times. The thing is, we have basics in this life. We need food, shelter, clothing, personal expression and relationships. When we get caught up on HOW we obtain these things and look at life like it's over because one route changes, we undermine our potential to see the next open door that can really help us become even more what we are meant to be in this life. Just some thoughts on tough times. Hope it's food for thought.
  • Dell
    Mandy, this is touching I really like your soulful comments. I can identify with your issues too.

    Dell
  • Marion Bowen
    Hey Dom, Be encouraged...even when we screw up, it's never too late until we are in the grave! You are young and there is so much to do still...have fun doing it! Marion
  • ravin
    Dear Dom, Merit and sincerity in your work will always be appreciated. Your work will always be required, and there will be many who will be rateful to you for the same. Don't lose focus on your work for today, tomorrow's work can only be handled tomorrow. Best wishes.
  • Momomo
    Wow! Inspirational message.
    I reckon we just have to deal with things as they come, and having family/friends' support is just what we need to keep going when times are tough.
    I hope to get some yummy meal/snack ideas from you soon.
    Hang in there and follow your heart!.
    xxx
  • kjelliman
    Good luck Dom,
    You will do well, with what ever you decide to do - seems you have many talents - go for it!!
    You have a special brother behind you, all the way - what a wonderful pleasure for you.
    Live life to the MAX - we have one chance at it!!
    All the best.
    Karen
  • JoeyAtlas
    Karen - thanks for adding some energy here. It will go far.

    Onward,
    Joey
  • klcks
    Dom - I wish you well - I have learned in the past few years that you need to take some chances in life - and somehow you always end up exactly where you need to. I have been through a great deal in a few short years - death of a parent, serious illness of a child, divorce, career change - and through all of it I have learned many lessons and gained knowledge that is invaluable. I come from an "old school" Italian family that believes in being conservative and not taking risks...guess I'm the black sheep of the family...lol...but I think I have lived a much more fulfilling, interesting life by putting aside my fear and "coloring outside the lines" so to speak. I wish you luck, but most of all I wish you the mental strength that is needed to push forward and take those chances. I'm sure Joey is a motivational force - I know he is for me and I've never even met him...and now he's entering a new phase of his life as well - never easy for sure - my divorce was final 5 months ago and it's still an adjustment - but the beauty of it is, even though change is never easy, you almost certainly always grow from it. I hope Joey (or you) keeps us updated!
  • JoeyAtlas
    Klcks - thank you for sharing this with us. It is greatly appreciated and will surely add to the cause.

    I'm glad I've been able to help you - and I will continue to do so. It is an honor for me...

    More to come - stay tuned...

    Joey
  • khushboo
    hey joe!
    i read ur evey mail n every video that i get from u. i was greatly inspired by those videos n a mail regarding ur daily routine of spending the day. i admire u big time. i subscribed to many health mails but honestly they all go into trash.
    thanks for ur mails every day. the first thing on the list of my day is check ur mails, somrthing wxactly like poart of my daily rituals even before i have flossed my teeth :)
    take care friend. m too small in age just 22 in front of u. but i feel i can all the reasons to call u a friend.
    adios....
  • JoeyAtlas
    Thanks Khushboo - very glad to hear I am a part of your day.

    Keep at it!
    Joey
  • reneemack
    Dom,
    I want to encourage you to be all that you can be in your pursuits. When a door closes, another opens and is always the best opportunity for us. We may think, as we watch that door closing, "Oh, great now what?!" Yet, there is no doubt that open door will be for the better. I am 60 years young now and have a list of past experiences to prove this thinking. And I still see bright opportunities opening up for me. It's a wonderful time of life for me personally. Joey refers to becoming diamonds. This is so true. All of us are diamonds in the rough getting brighter and brighter each step of the way. Diamonds have many facets/sides. And so do we. I was at one time wondering which way to go and chose a direction that I know now was correct. It has led me to a place of supreme joy, heavenly joy, as I know that my Heavenly Father with Jesus at His side on the Throne in heaven has directed me every step of the way for his purposes for my life. I will be praying for you. Your destiny is here. Keep an open mind and He will show you the way. PS You are wonderfully made Psalm 139. My dad was Italian. You guys look Italian. Hope I'm not wrong. All the best. With Much Love.
  • JoeyAtlas
    BTW... Yes, Reneee - we are Italian - good eye!!

    Father from Palermo, Sicily.
    Mother's parents came from Calabria (to Brooklyn, NY)

    Last name is 'Gennusa'
    Atlas is my pen/professional name.

    Best,
    Joey
  • Jo
    I couldnt be more agree with Renee....I am 41 this year, has been a single parent for 10 years now, but surprisingly i appreciate my life more than before, i found the true joy that i have never had before. I have found my purpose of life.....that is the most important thing in life or we do not know what we want in this life, where we are heading too...No matter how much goal we have achieved, be honest with ourselves, we will never satisfied with our life...at some point we will find the emptiness...nothing could fill in the emptiness but in our creator, our Father through His Son Jesus...True joy cant be faked,...it is from inside out not the surface....
    If i may say something for both of you, Joey and Dom....you are doing great! what you have done has been such a blessing to many people...you are in the right track....We are blessed to bless others....what is more wonderful than to be a channel of blessings....thats a fulfilling life!

    God bless and establish the works of your hand...
    jo
  • JoeyAtlas
    Jo - thanks for your words of support and encouragement - They are much appreciated.

    Joey
  • JoeyAtlas
    Renee - Thanks so much for posting your comments. Dom will appreciate this. I'm sure he'll be chiming in here at some point.

    All the best,
    Joey
  • Nirmala
    Hi Joey, I read your mails quite regularly & I appreciate your thoughts on life in general. I don't excercise at all but I love to read you mails which are very encouraging. Now at a point when you and your brother Dom need some encouragement, is when I would like to step in. First of all, I am pleasantly surprised and grateful to Renee and Jo who have mentioned the most important person in our lives and that is Jesus Christ. I have never seen or had the opportunity to share faith in a secular system where any form of belief system is not looked upon unfavourably. But I hope you and your family do believe in God and hope you have experienced His abundant grace and mercy on your lives. Hold on to Him and be blessed forever. I will certainly remember you in my prayers and I hope I have not offended your personal faith in any way. God Bless.
  • casmire
    i nirmala I read your mails quite regularly & I appreciate your thoughts on life in general. I don't excercise at all but I love to read you mails which are very encouraging. Now at a point when you and your, i need who will loving caring casmire ...
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