Wednesday, July 16th 2014

Relationship Books I’ve Read to Help Me Live to the Max

The slogan of this blog, Live to the Max, transcends 'fitness' - it is applied to all aspects of life. On that note - as promised, here is your follow-up post to my recent and quite popular post The Inside Scoop On My 3rd and Final Wife Again, I want to thank EVERYONE who commented on that post. I’ve already ordered about 6 of the books recommended by others. And I’m loving them so far...
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The purpose of today’s post is to share some of the books I’ve already read over the last year or two - and hopefully share a few insights & thoughts that might help a few readers today - maybe even help myself as I put things into the written word (a VERY powerful exercise, btw).
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As I’ve mentioned in the past, I love to read. Not so much for the sake of reading - but to satisfy my thirst for knowledge & enlightenment - mostly focused on: A - living to my fullest potential (in all areas) B - inspiring others to do the same C - and in the spirit of this blog - Living to the Max. Today’s focus? Finding/Creating an awesomely healthy love-relationship. So... I’ve been on a torrid reading spree of relationship-focused books. (some days I read 5 pages - other days it might be 60-70). One of the authors I highly recommend is Robert Johnson. Here is a link featuring some great quotes from him - to give you a taste of his work: I’ve read the following books by him, so far: 1 - We; Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love 2 - He; Understanding Masculine Psychology 3 - She; Understanding Feminine Psychology 4 - Inner Work I dog-eared them the first time through - but I will read them again, with a highlighter next time - as there are certain sentences and paragraphs that hit home in profound ways and will surely serve as powerful ‘review-reminders’ as time and life progresses. There are times when I’m reading and I’ll come across an idea or concept that makes me stop and think about how deeply what I just read resonates with me - how much it is a belief, based on my values. Seeing these things in black and white, from wise teachers who’ve been around much longer than I, is reaffirming - and also a boost that pushes my ‘awareness’ a bit higher. Writing that just made me realize that as I go through each day - it’s easy to see how most people just “go through the motions” - motions that are fueled by societal norms and habits. It’s a challenge to ‘step out’ of all that - and requires work & discipline - but it can be done, and it's worth it - many, many times over.... And the more you do, the easier it gets. And with time you’ll notice you tend to connect with others who are working on developing ‘awareness’ in their journey of life. I don’t want to get too far off base here (maybe another day) - so I’ll close with saying ‘thanks’ again, for reading this today - and let me know your thoughts on Robert Johnson (or any other thoughts you might have). Please post below... Your trainer for life, - Joey Atlas

  • Gloria Sanner

    Great blog. I’m excited to start reading these great books. Thanks, glo

  • Houstonpam

    Robert Johnson is a great author with precise Jungian insights. He offers a great deal of wisdom in his books. Keep reading.

  • julia

    yha, that great quotes and learn from them make a big change in life, thank you so much, keep up good work.
    xoxoxo.

  • Jan

    The first book in your pic ‘5 love languages’ helped me understand a lot about myself! Learning to find out the top two in others, its very interesting!!

  • RFV

    I have 2 friends who were both looking for “male companionship” at the same time. They both asked me for advice, so I invited my newly divorced and widowed (for a
    year) friends over one evening. They were both sick of reading self-help books
    and being told they should try on line dating and blind dates.The first thing I explained was the similarity between “dating” and going on a job interview. During a “date” both parties try very hard to appear interesting, charming, sexy, desirable etc. During a job interview the job candidate is also trying to appear, smart, cooperative, diligent, highlyskilled etc. In both situations the last thing you want is to let your annoying quirks, your temper, or any bad habits to become obvious. Because your guard is ALWAYS UP, “dating” in the classic sense is the least efficient way to get to
    know a person.
    As a 3 time cancer survivor I told both women that the most precious thing they have in their life is…TIME. If I am correct and TIME is the most precious thing they have…then they needed to change their “mindset” concerning finding a man and “multi task” that goal with other goals that were important to them. I asked my divorced friend to tell me every goal she had for the upcoming week. She explained that she had signed up for a course on how to upholster her dining room chairs so she could save some money. My widowed friend said she was interested in setting up a neighborhood watch. Then I explained that EVERYTIME they left the house to attend to these activities…they needed to look their absolute best.(Hair, make up and outfit)
    Two weeks later my divorced friend called to tell me that she had met a single man (in her age bracket) who was also irritated with his dining room chairs and was also trying to say money. A month later my widowed friend called to explain that her neighborhood watch efforts caused her to meet a widower who was also
    spooked about living alone.

  • JoeyAtlas

    Great material here – thanks for sharing! ..BTW – this is a gem: “Because your guard is ALWAYS UP, “dating” in the classic sense is the least efficient way to get to know a person.”

    So true 🙂
    Joey

  • JoeyAtlas

    Thanks Jan – keep me posted! I’m into the Barbara D book right now – and loving it! …5LL is next!

  • JoeyAtlas

    You got it!

  • JoeyAtlas

    All the best, Glo – I’m loving these books – helping me (even more) already!

  • JoeyAtlas

    Still reading…. 🙂